A Thing called LOVE
It may just seem like a four-letter word associated with flowers, hearts, and chocolates but one would surely know his stuff when he describes how crazy love can make a person feel. This is what love is for most of us. It goes out to even the most logical being and gives him a total personality makeover. Believing that one is in love is the reason that can make a girl who was once in control of her life agree to have sex with her boyfriend while being videotaped all throughout – simply because she loves him and is afraid of losing him, but as to what point should we draw the line between love and reason. There’s no question our relationships are important to us. Most times, they even help us define who we are. However, if you start losing yourself in that process, if you are no longer important to yourself as yourself, then that’s not the most ideal place to be in. The way to love someone else is to love yourself first. What is important is that you develop a standard of behavior that you can measure your relationship against. If someone demands proof of your love in ways that go against your beliefs, or in a manner that doesn’t empower you, then that is not loving but manipulation. Look at how you act, how you think, and how you feel when you are with somebody. Losing yourself when you are around him won’t do either of you any good.
Love, to this day, still defies definition. One thing is for sure though, once Cupid’s arrow hits you, you have no choice, the feelings will come and there is no way you can just stop these “crazy feelings”. However, you do have a choice, whether or not to act on these feelings. It’s easy to see a relationship as the end all of your existence. Knowing that someone loves you and only you, and being able to return the favor of loving him back makes for a very overwhelming experience there is. Love involves great risks and even greater responsibilities.
